baby mama

i hate this term.

idk why it bugs me so much, but it does. maybe it's just me, but i would be so damn offended if i had a baby and the dad called me his "baby mama", or even "baby's mom". i know i'm a little old fashioned when it comes to these things, but i guess the more pressing issue is; why are we letting these random dudes get us pregnant in the first place? better yet, why are we HAVING SEX with these random dudes? i don't like the way society is going! i know marriage isn't for everyone, but can you at least be in a relationship with someone if you're having sex with them? why are so many women these days having sex with men they don't even know! i don't understand when and WHY this became socially acceptable. i swear, the dawn of birth control, condoms, etc is a blessing and a curse. the pros are obvious: but the cons-- people think they can bone whoever they want with no consequences!

it may be a good idea for you, at least that's what you think, but think about the potential baby you're bringing into this world. that baby's not gonna have a daddy because you guys wanted to have fun for what? 30 minutes? i'm not saying it's wrong to be a single mom, cuz shit happens, but just think about the potential consequences of things BEFORE you do them & stop sitting there with a dumbass look on your face when you find that random hookup resulted in a baby in your belly.

it's sad. please, please, PLEASE just think! and think of yourselves as MORE than some dude's baby mama. strive for more! be better then a random hookup, be his girlfriend or even his wife before you give it up!

it needs to be said.

listen up ladies.

i am so sick of seeing & hearing about how easily some of y'all give it up. what are you thinking?
i guess i can understand that it's fun or whatever, but i deep down, i find it hard to believe that you actually really enjoyed it. what good could possibly come of sleeping with some dude you barely know? think about it... you don't know this dude's last name, but you're gonna let him inside your body? and i don't care how careful you think you're being, you can STILL get pregnant or catch something. NOTHING is 100% besides abstinence & i truly believe that all this junk that comes on tv & in movies had influenced this generation. everything on film always makes things look perfect. one-night stands always become your prince charming, the random dude who knocked you up (when you didn't use a condom!) sticks around & you guys raise the baby & live happily ever after. yeah right! and in all the sex scenes you see in movies & on tv, when's the last time you saw someone put on a condom? almost never! yet you never head anything about STD's or pregnancy. I'm not writing this to put anyone down, but i just hate to see girls treat themselves like this. you are better than that ladies! & don't even let some dude tell you or treat you otherwise. i know not everyone wants to get married, but most do... and think about it. do you want your husband to have what a million other dudes got to have? and what if one of these guys gives you something you can't get rid of?! you really wanna be stuck with something forever for a few minutes of pleasure with some random guy? just PAUSE before you do something. i'm not saying that we should save ourselves until marriage (though i think it's a great idea), i think that may be too extreme. what if you never get married? however, if you're with a guy and; you can't imagine him being a good father, he's irresponsible, you could never let him meet your parents, he hooks up with random girls all the time, etc. when why on earth would you sleep with him?

take it easy girls.

your body is a GIFT, treasure it!